Carl Rogers once said, “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself as I am, then I can change.” A paradox indeed – and many of us fear that this kind of radical acceptance will de-motivate us from growing and evolving.
But it turns out to be just the opposite. When we can give ourselves love and tenderness for the light and the dark aspects of our nature, we provide fertile ground for positive change.
One of the best ways to uplift your mood and boost your happiness set point, is to “Take in the Good”. Watch Dr. Rick Hanson tell us why, and how, we can develop an “attitude of gratitude” for the blessings and abundance in our lives.
Forgiveness of self and of others is key to freeing ourselves from negative emotions that are often rooted in the past. When we “re-play” stories of people or events that hurt us, we continue to injure ourselves.
Watch this video by Dr. Jack Kornfield, on “What Forgiveness Means”
At our January 2019 Sangha, Dr. John mentioned the website “Big White Wall” – an online 24/7 site offering mental health and wellbeing services. Big White Wall offers self-help programmes, creative outlets and a community that cares. All contact with the site are kept anonymous.
If you need help, Big White Wall offers a support network and guided support. 93% of people who used Big White Wall felt better after making contact and getting help.
Has a seemingly small event ever changed your life? Has a random meeting ever altered the trajectory of your plans for the future? Has a certain person come into your life – (in a positive or negative way) – totally unexpectedly, and changed you forever?
Small, seemingly inconsequential events can occur that actually are not so small, or inconsequential. And when we look back, we are grateful that they occurred. If this has ever happened to you, you will relate to this video. And have the kleenex ready – you may need one or two!
Tara Brach is a clinical psychologist and Buddhist meditation teacher. She has written a number of books, and offers many courses that help us navigate through life more skillfully. In this short video, Tara teaches us how to be truly present when we listen to each other with the “ears of the heart.”
The deeply healing power of “being heard” by someone in a non-judgmental way, is truly a gift of compassion and love.
Coursera.ca offers many excellent courses – many of them for free!
Currently they are offering, “The Science of Well-Being”, starting on July 23rd, Although you can take this course and pay the tuition fee, it is also offered at no charge provided the student is not looking for an educational credit at the end. The majority (if not all) of the content is available for free and includes videos and articles.
Although I have not taken this course myself (yet!), I have taken other Coursera courses and thoroughly enjoyed them. If you are looking for strategies to increase your happiness, you might want to give this a try!
Fear. Anger……how can we decrease the suffering experienced by these emotions? In this free video series, Jack Kornfield, PhD Clinical Psychologist and Buddhist monk, shares teachings from the wisdom traditions that help us to break away from the bonds of negative emotion and alleviate our suffering.